Being a parent is one of the most exceptional things in life. Currently the average number of children per family is 2/3, that is, there are not so many opportunities to grow with your child.
In Baby experience we have wanted to collect some of the things that you can not stop doing with your children before they grow up:
- Sleep with them What is more beautiful, tender, sweet, infatuated, soft (and a thousand more adjectives) than waking up and seeing his face? Being able to enjoy this moment with them, while it lasts, is one of the things that you will miss the most when they have grown up. Maria Montessori said in 'The child and the family' these words:
“The child loves the adult very much. When he goes to bed, he always wants a loved one to be with him. However, the loved one says: "This whim must be prevented: the child should not acquire this bad habit of not knowing how to fall asleep without someone being around." One day, sadly, we will say: “There is no one who cries from the desire to have me close when he is about to fall asleep. Everyone thinks of themselves, they fall asleep full of thoughts of the past day, nobody remembers me!
Only the boy remembers and every night he says: "Don't leave me, stay close to me!" , and the adult responds: "I can't, I have to do, what is this whim?" Then think about correcting it, because otherwise you would make us all slaves of his love!
Sometimes the child wakes up in the morning and goes to wake up mom and dad who want to sleep: this is the whim everyone complains about. But the child who gets out of bed is a pure being who does what everyone should do: When the sun rises everyone should get up, but the parents are still asleep and this little being goes, as if to say: “Learn to live healthy, in the morning you must wake up. But the child is not a teacher, he only goes to see them because he loves them; as soon as he wakes up, his desire takes him to the people he loves; perhaps you will have to cross rooms that are still dark, closed, so as not to let the light in too early; the child goes, stumbles, is not afraid of the dark, is not afraid of the half-closed doors and comes close to the father and mother and touches them gently. How many times they say to him: "Child, don't wake me up in the morning!" and the boy responds "I didn't wake you up, I just kissed you!" and parents think about how to correct it. But on what other occasion in our life will it happen that someone, as soon as he wakes up, wants to run towards us, overcoming any difficulty, without the intention of waking us up, but only giving us a kiss? Who else does this for us? ”
- Carry your baby. The most wonderful place chosen by a baby are THE ARMS OF MOM AND DAD. There is no place that brings you more heat, love, food, sensations, security and well-being than the skin of mom and dad. That's why he really enjoys carrying it in his arms, in a scarf, in a backpack or whatever you choose, but close, always close! What's wrong with getting used to having Mom hug you continuously? What's wrong with getting used to feeling loved?
- Don't judge yourself. Enjoy your baby without being influenced by third party comments. That little life that you have before you is happy with your presence and your love. No one better than you knows what you need and when you need it, so the comments of the neighbor of the room or the hairdresser should not cause you any kind of discomfort.
- Play with your baby. When he is born, a few months will pass in which he will only need to sleep and eat, but there will come a time when he will begin to ask for your attention and will want to communicate with you. It is time for you to enjoy showing him the world through play. The stimulation through the game is very important for its development but, in addition, brings moments of great magic and happiness in the family.
- Listen to music together. There are studies that say that music (mainly classical music) stimulates the baby's brain and enhances its emotional and cognitive development, in addition to creating calm sensations. Whether it is true or not, we know that we stretch out next to our little one with soft background music and play with our feet, our hands, our lips, our eyes, etc. It creates feelings of love and tranquility that renew us and help us establish more bonds.
- Discover different textures in nature. A rainy day is very different from a sunny day. The sand is nothing like wet moss, nor the wood of a tree, nor the roughness of a stone. Enjoy with your child teaching him different things with different smells, different textures, etc. Surely you also discover new things.
- Enjoy exploring the food. When it's time to start offering foods other than milk, let her do her research with the food. Let the chafe, break it, that alone put it in the mouth or throw it. You are learning and learning does not mean knowing how to follow the rules of "conduct" from the beginning. Learning means knowing the food thoroughly, knowing if it is soft, hard, liquid or solid, if it is sweet or salty. It is possible that at this time the dining room gets dirtier than you had thought, do not worry, that can be cleaned.
- Bathe with him. Play in the water, splash around, massage it with the soap while you observe the size of your foot, your little legs, your arms, the softness of your skin. It is a moment of intimacy between the two that you cannot miss.
- Take time. Pa / maternity supposes a brutal change that makes our life change completely. Our work, friends and society keep going, but we are no longer the same. This sometimes generates a feeling of frustration and discomfort that does not allow us to see beyond. Prioritize, sometimes work is the least change, but do everything possible to share spaces, hours and experiences with your little one. He will thank you with all his love and you will take that memory forever.
